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Hopelessness & Thanksgiving

Really?  You want to bring up “hopelessness” when Thanksgiving week is coming up? What’s the deal?                                                   OK, originally I was writing a blog on hopelessness because it was on my heart — so many situations were popping up around me of people struggling with despair.  And I wanted to give “hope” in those places. Henry

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What’s Blocking My Joy?

You know when it hits:  doldrums, dragging through the day, looking in the mirror to see if you really have turned into Eeyore* since it sure feels like it on the inside. Eeyore* — a fictional character in Winnie-the-Pooh books generally characterized as a pessimistic, gloomy, depressed old grey stuffed donkey…. whom we all love

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The Heart Condition

In every mediation I have done, I am, in the first stages of the process, looking for clues to a couple of important pieces that will guide my work with them:  1st:  The level of spiritual understanding of the parties and 2nd: The condition of their heart (not the physical health, but spiritual) Why do

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It’s Just Not Fair

“One of the hardest areas in which to trust God is in the matter of justice.”  Henry Blackaby absolutely ‘nails it’ in his devotional book “Experiencing God Day by Day”.  As a Certified Christian Conciliator© for 20+ years, I can affirm that one of the most frequent obstacles to people being able to reconcile broken relationships has been

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Desires of Our Heart – Danger or Joy?

What if I said “both”? One of the helpful exercises I do with people in conflict involves walking through James 4:1-4 which explains “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it.” As we follow the scripture together, I am

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Why Forgive?

I heard it often in the middle of conflict casework – “Why should I forgive them – after what they have done?’ Good question to discuss – because it reveals a huge hurdle to people being reconciled to God (which is primary in the whole process) and then to others.  It is where people get

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“You Shall Not Covet…” – What’s That About?

As I am more actively involved in Christian mediation work again, and also presently walking alongside some folks struggling with conflict, I put myself into “refresher” mode on some of the basics. One of the best resources in my library is Paul Tripp’s “Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands” which has the subtitle:  People in Need

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Do We Get Second Chances?

One of my favorite “second chance” stories is that of Ben Carson.  Yes, the soft-spoken, calm demeanor, unflappable adult who recently served in public office but is primarily known as the director of pediatric neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins.  One of the youngest doctors in the U.S. to earn such a title, he gained renown in

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WOUNDS OF A FRIEND

These words just don’t seem to go together – but actually they often NEED to go together. Surprising, isn’t it?  When you think of being a friend, it comes to mind easily to think of being comforting and gentle.   But it often shows up in a Christian mediation process that we need to address this

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The Power of Words

Throughout the years of doing Christian mediations and coaching people in conflict, I have been amazed at the power of the words often at the core of the struggle and hurt.   So when I heard Tim Keller’s podcast on the power of words, I loved how he handled the whole topic. I can only give

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I'm Candy.

A lawyer by trade, and a Sherpa by choice; I draw upon my professional experience and combine valuable insight from others to help you REVITALIZE YOUR LIFE story.